This is the second type which is laid down into
the man (fig.5).
The term oral comes from Latin word mouth
and means literally pertaining to mouth. This type is laid down during the first
two years, during the oral stage of childs development. Hes very in need of
his mother, but he oppresses her before all his needs are satisfied completely.
That is, he behaves in such a way as not to allow her to take care of him. This
way he creates in himself the image of mother that didnt support him, didnt
love and satisfy his needs, in order to live through all the attributes which
correspond to this trauma later.
Trauma that forms the field structure of this
type is leaving alone, abandonment of the child. The child feels himself lost
and deprived of endearments, he is in lack of physical contact, attention,
sometimes of food and emotional infeed. In her order, the mother gets irritated
to the need to take care about the child, and she may become angry when he
cries. The most ordinary story of forming the oral type is when putting baby
into a kindergarten or when hes left for someones attention of close
relatives, for instance, for the grandmother. The mother might go to the job at
that time, to the higher college, if shes a student, or on her own duties.
Because the oral was often left alone in his
childhood and was not given enough attention, petting and love, he develops
such a model of behavior as to be usually grasped, held at someone or
something. In other words, he develops strong attachments inside himself to
people and things. The last one can be anything: books, disks, pieces of
antiquaries, stamps and so on. Since he has been stuck in the childhood and
doesnt experience himself adolescent, he creates a base or firm ground for
himself in people and things.
The investigators distinguish between two types
of orals: Straight oral or dependent type, also called suggesting love, and
compensated oral, or self-confident, self-asserted.
Since an oral considers, experiences himself he
has not been given the sufficient amount of attention, warmth, food finally,
the feeling of emptiness, lack is developed in his subconsciousness. Outside
this feelings show themselves as greediness. People tend to censure such qualities
like greediness, lying, fraud and so on. But now, I hope, you begin to realize
that everything of that kind is present in every man, including you, and that
this is a result of the baby trauma.
If you censure these qualities in yourself, if
you dont want to face them directly, that is, to see them and to begin
interacting with them without fighting and suppressing, then they merrily
continue to be and to develop themselves, sometimes taking the worst possible
forms. If you observe them, with acceptance and understanding of the origin of
their existence, then these qualities begin to change their sign greediness
begins to turn into generosity, lying into truth saying and so on.
The basic thing to be understood by an oral
about greediness is that he lives in a prosperous Universe, where there is
all-enough of everything for everyone. This universe is built according to the
prosperity principle. He needs to learn to detect this prosperity around him.
It is necessary for him to witness that everything he needs he gets always.
The feelings of lack and emptiness inside him
develop defective dispositions: Ill make you give me it and I dont need
it. I have met orals that could, saying in metaphor, press the blood from the
stone. From another side, orals, constantly looking for infeed for themselves,
are unable to accept it because they are completely confident inside that they
wont give me it. So interesting is how the child trauma is developed inside a
man, forming his worldview. Perceive attentively how this takes its place.
Since the oral has been stuck in his childhood,
hell tend in his relationships with people to be brought up, taught and helped
to self-realize, that is, he has strong tendency to depend on the others. He
has a weak image about the future, thats why he aims to be cared about.
Getting to the world of adults, he experiences
failures and troubles because he identifies himself with a child. He constantly
expressed complaints on fatigability, tiredness and passiveness. Hes also inclined
to depressions.
Compensated oral is afraid to allow others to
care about him. He is trying to be strong from the viewpoint of physical
strength (I know an oral who has received prize places in bodybuilding) and
takes care for himself by his own. He has an oversized feeling of own
independence which is actually dissolved in stress conditions. He frequently
tries himself and has a necessity to try himself in complicated situations. He
finds them at no cost. Others cant do that, but hes able to.
An oral has three types of defenses developing.
The first one is Sucking. The essence of it is that a man literally sucks
energy from the man close to him. The thing is an oral hasnt developed ability
to absorb energy from his surrounding environments that is why he has only one
way to use energy already reused by others around. This form of a defense can
be sensed by the mans habitual chatting which brings fatigue, and, even if
these men keep silence, the exhaustion is felt anyway in a while after talking
to them.
Oral sex is a form of manifestation of this
defense. Another form of this defense is when a woman pumps repeatedly money,
things from a man, demands his attention and so on. Men can do it the same way,
but with nuances proper to their gender.
I want to make a note one more time that there
are no bad defenses and no good ones. If you like to talk about energy vampires
while having a cup of tea, what a horrible men they are, if you censure them in
this or that way, consequently, you have the same present in yourself. Think
about it.
Everything is perfect in this world. If there
are energy consumers, consequently, there should be the ones who have it plenty
of it and who share it with pleasure. Masochists, for instance, associate with
orals with pleasure and share their energy with them because they have an
excess of it. Since almost every man has something from the masochist character
in him, consequently, every one of us associates with orals with pleasure. And
I dont even speak here about oral sex: its possibly pleasant to the majority
of people to share their energy in that way.
The second defense of an oral is Denial. Its
accompanied by the rigid block in the region of neck. There is plenty of energy
in the orals head, but a leak of it in the remaining body. To keep his
experience of living and to remain the existent order of matters, since he
doesnt want to change anything in his life, he chatters frequently, always
staying on his own positions at the same time. Often this type of defense can
be determined by the word no, the one which oral often uses in the beginning
of the speech, responding to what you have said to him.
When I asked one
woman to track her speech and not to utter the word no replying to the
remarks I did, to think about instead, to be silent, she has been blown away as
with a wind. I havent seen her anymore.
The third defense of an oral is Hysteria.
The target of this defense is to clear up the room from the people and to stay
alone. The one using this defense throws arrows in his opponents, pieces of
lightning with a such a fury, that people, having everything thundering and
glittering around them, just as it could be at the end of the ages, prefer to
leave the room as quickly as possible, and not to subject themselves and their
nervous systems to such a stress. All this takes place, of course, on the
subtle plane. On the exterior plane this is experienced as a great feeling of
discomfort, and a desire to leave as quickly as possible.
The oral has a sexual intercourse just to
experience somebody is there near to him. And this is understandable thats
because he hadnt enough of his mother in his childhood. Hes more in need of
close relations and a contact with a man, then in sexual intercourse by its
own.
Like that, one
woman told that when she lies in a bed with a man, more then anything else its
necessary for her to clasp to him, to lie down her head on his shoulder and to
lie in that way, feeling the warmth and presence of a near man close to her.
Since an oral has chakra 2B closed, he doesnt
have a great amount of sexual energy. From another side, he has chakra 2A open,
and that means he is able to give and to receive sexual pleasure. In that
sense, its pleasant to deal with that kind of men; there is something to
learn, in a sense.
Oral has skeletal, slim, weak, child body which
correspondently looks dependent. He has it gathered together in a way to make
others to be near to him and to care of him. Muscles are weak, sluggish, not
fully developed. Usually the body has few hairs on it. To look abstractly at
it, it seems like its moving down, and theres a tendency to grasp, to grab
sensed in it.
Compensated oral has sinewy, stretched like an
arrow body.
Draw an attention to the orals skull
structure. He has a stretched face and cavities along the check-bones at its
sides. This is a distinctive feature of an oral. The orals head is thrown
forward creating an impression that he searches for something. His mouth is
big, steps forward, and lips are also big and full.
The orals eyes are questioning, calling,
doubting. The stare is childish. He has tendency to the shortsightedness. The
images which appear in front of orals inner sight are severe future, empty unfertile
places. And compensated one has a lonely man in a desert.
The orals shoulders are curved forward. Arms
are weak, sluggish, legs are long, elbows are adjoined, squeezed, and feet are
flat, squeezed. Basin is small and is positioned at an angle to the backbone,
is inclined forward. There is a pressure on the sacrum and on the spine itself.
The orals chest is hollow and has a deepening
in it. If its possible for a schizoid-woman to have a kind of breast,
oral-woman doesnt have it very often. She may have the breast due to presence
of other characters only.
Once I have met my
fellow outdoors, and he had introduced me to a man familiar to him, proudly
speaking about how he has starved for thirty days. Frankly speaking, his chest
has fallen through - he noticed. Having taken a closer look, Ive noticed that
a squeezed arm could be put in the appeared deepening.
I see very often schizoids and orals that are
fond of starvation, vegetarianism, and different kind of diets. I almost
havent seen these people to have blooming appearance, - mostly likely they
look exhausted, weakened, and have a gray face color. But if you point it out
for them, theyll passionately begin to assure you they have never felt
themselves so briskly. Usually its just comical to look at people who simply
couldnt become overweight, the way they put themselves on different diets.
Essentially, they live through their own blocks
they already have a strong feeling of disunity with the world, unbelieving
the prosperity of the Universe and a feeling of emptiness inside, confirming at
the same time these feelings with concrete physical actions, and creating even
larger deficiency in their life. This way they shift themselves into the
bordering condition to get the law of Monad Turning worked at the end of the
ages and to move themselves into the opposite state.
Oral has weak, sad voice which is childish, of
course. He also makes everything possible even here to be taken under
protection and to be guided in life. His breathing is not deep, he couldnt
accept, doesnt allow enough amount of air in.
As you have probably understood already, oral
has very few his own energy, its mainly concentrated in the head. The limbs
have very small amount of energy conveyed to them. Thats why his movements are
sluggish, apathical, detained, similarly to a man who
underwent the defeat. The energy is not sensed in them, and it is quickly
dissolved.
He has chakras 2A, 6A and 7 operating normally.
In relationships orals suggest a desire in
people to take them under protection and to patronize them. Even if they keep
silence and make no actions, youll have such a desire appeared in yourself.
And all this is because they have been stuck in the childhood. As a result they
form such a field structure in their body-mind system, which acting upon your
subconsciousness simply makes you to do it. You often or even always have a
wish to help the child and to take him under your protection, dont you?
This is manifested most accurately in women,
even if theyre not orals. Sometimes they make such a miserable appearance that
you have to come to help them willingly or unwillingly, theres merely a force
which makes you act. But as the time passes by these relations produce
weariness in people, feeling of overtiredness and a wish to take off this load
quickly.
Orals hardly listen to others, might ask a lot
of questions, but dont listen to the answers. Their speech is not straight,
evasive; this means that they never tell directly what they need. But indeed,
they dont know for themselves what they need, because their feeling of
emptiness is as great, as they get lost in it. Orals need to acquire the vision
of and to endorse their needs, that is, every time they need something, they
should mark that out. Then they may begin to think about the prosperity of the
Universe.
Orals are very jealous people. Its known from
the old times that jealousy is engendered by greediness, sense of private
property and a fear to be left alone, and fear to stay alone. In situations
orals either go to passiveness, or leave into dependent state, or manifest a
strong desire to possess something.
The evil harsh passiveness appears in oral
because he, being already adolescent, still identifies himself with a child.
The last one leads to that he begins to suppress his active energies which
allow him to act and realize himself. This way active
energies are transformed in him into avarice and greediness it looks
for him that its easier to hold a thing close to himself than to share it or
to go to create something new and better.
For example, one
young man who has brightly expressed oral character, having experienced a
fiasco in the field of musical management, now when watching new band on TV,
new performer, criticizes them severely to the dust. He personally could do
nothing in that field, went into passiveness and doesnt recognize what it is
to go upwards step by step, year by year by the ladder leading to the music
Orals dependence takes its origin from the constant
eager aspiration in him to possess something he can never be satisfied. It is
as great as it is required to control it all the time, what in turn produces
the state of dependence. Orals are deadly tightened to their desire, and it is
not them who determine their life, but their ambition instead. You probably
know the examples like someone was saving money for years and decades to buy
something, having completely subjected his life to this ambition.
To fulfill his eager ambition, oral always
selects between loneliness and imitation, lying, as he presumes, from another
mans side. This is his inner concern.
For instance, one
woman who divorced with her husband recently, she has a baby to, got acquainted
with very appealing, by her words, man in a café, who was unmarried too
and had a baby too. Apart from that, he had excellent large apartment and a
luxury car that woman always dreamed of. He suggested her and her son to move
into his apartment in order to live together. Its necessary to state that she was
engaged in the exchange of her living area at that very moment, to create more
or less normal life conditions for her. So, when he suggested her to move at
him, she considered there was something wrong in it and rejected. But still if
she would have moved at him, she would have continued to think there has been
the fraud unseen somewhere in it.
That is the orals attitude to life which
engenders his defective disposition: Ill make you give me it, from the one
side, and I dont need it, from another. That is, oral deals with either
fraud or loneliness. Hence the double knot comes out, which makes oral to rush
about in life: If Ill ask him/her/them for it, this wont be love; if I wont
ask for it, I wont have it. Duality pairs an oral deals with, - are Love
Hate, Giving Receiving, Responsibility Unreability.
I remind you here again that you can learn in larger details about duality
pairs and double knots from my second book The Way to Freedom: Good and Evil
a game in duality.
To tell about the physical body, oral, just
like any other character, is to begin the investigation of the tensions that
exist in his body. But the most significant point for him to deal with, - is
his weakness. Its necessary for him to live through it often, though this
feeling is very unpleasant, when you touch it. Every time trying to do
something, whether these are physical exercises or solving a concrete task,
youll encounter the weakness in the limbs and in the whole body. And you have
no other way left as to let that feeling to arise and to live through it.
The man has only two ways either he just
lives through his life, trying to solve problems in the order in which they
appear in front of him, or he begins to realize what happens to him, goes into
his blocks and lives through them. The second way, in my view, is shorter and
more interesting. But its up to you to decide what youll do.
From the viewpoint of working on oneself, from
the psychology viewpoint, oral needs to determine his needs-requirements and to
learn to live his life in a way he could carry them out. This means to try
acting again and again, putting no attention to the time and powers used to
reach the goal. And its also implied there to bring your active self at the
consciousness level without suppressing the inner child. That is, oral is to
learn to stand on the legs firmly.
Its necessary for an oral to trust in the
prosperity of the Universe and to change the process of regular grasping into
the opposite. In other words, he needs to master the process of giving. He may
learn it from his 2A chakra, since it is open. He also needs to stop playing
the victim role and to see, to accept and to recognize what he gets from the
people around, close relatives and from the world too. He needs to work often
with the fear to stay alone, which produces loneliness around him.
If youll begin to investigate your inner world
carefully, the first thing youll encounter when investigating an oral type, -
is an affirmation-mask: I dont need you and In no way Ill ask for it.
When youll get well acquainted with this mask, the lower self will arise to
the surface, stating Take care of me, give me a shelter, and provide me with
everything. This is a self an oral identifies himself
with.
When you will have passed through it, - however
this may take several years, - you would have approximately the following words
articulated inside you: Im satisfied; Im realized; I match up. This will be
your highest self talking.
When working on yourself, always bear in mind
that a man is never to achieve the perfection, and he will always have newer
and newer horizons opening for him. Because of that treat yourself
condescendingly sometimes in your life.
Oral is greatly interested in the other people,
ties relationships with them and tunes to their necessities simply. He can be
trusted in, and its easy to have conversations on any topics with him. These
people are very tender and able to love. They express their feelings
effortlessly, excluding the anger, and that is why, to talk about the emotional
life, they have something to be learnt about.
Since orals have their two top chakras open,
they are very spiritual people, and many of that told about schizoids
higher self can be brought to oral. These people are very creative in
sciences and arts, but I have met many orals who were tuning themselves to
become teachers even in their youth. They are - teachers from the God, because
they have a big heart capable of loving and to give love. Their love going
straightly from the heart easily binds with knowledge they possess.
And I also wanted to mark the fact here that
neither a mask, nor the lower self exists without the appearance of the
higher self. In other words, be careful and dont think that a man, until he
has began the work on him, has only negative emotions and ideas living in. In
most cases the higher and lower self coexist in him.
We all need each other because we
are one single organism.